Deadbeat father's.

A raw and straight from the heart rant... no time to think clearly . How is it that a paying father can be allowed to pay less than $50 a week child support for 4 children and his privacy is utmost to the agency. No wonder parents like me get pissed off and fed up with a system that does get rorted by some parents but others like myself make best with what we have and ultimately the ones hurt are the children who miss out... Yeah I am pissed off.. One man has no morals concerning his children and cries for equal rights for fathers. You burnt your bridges you fucker ... rot in hell for eternity.....you are lower than this snake's asshole.

Fathers, the Power of One

The subject of fatherless homes and the important role a father has in a child's life has been written about many times and the views vary. You can find many opinions on how important a father is, most by so called experts. Sure enough there are many, many homes where there is no father and the home is a happy one, the children are well adjusted and they do great academically. The children grow and venture into adulthood as well adjusted persons. Watching a favorite show, A Current Affair tonight, it had a story about 3 young boys whose behaviors were out of control and the mothers were struggling to cope. One of those children came from a fatherless home. This also includes fathers who live at home but may as well be a piece of the furniture. There can be no doubt that the ideal is a home where both parents raise their children but this is not an ideal world and there is thousands of homes where there is only one parent doing the bulk of the child rearing. This post is about the importance of fathers and how it can affect children who do not have an active father in their lives or a responsible male role model/s. Who is to blame here, women who chose to have children as a single mother, fathers who run off as they can't handle respsonsiblilities, or the government who makes it easy for these fatherless families to pop up like mushrooms in a poop infested cow paddock. Mothers and fathers alike need to re-examine the plight of children before embarking on an insane idea that fathers are not necessary in a child's life. The child seen tonight who had no active father in his home, was angry, he often became violent, acted out at school and was abusive towards his mother. It was very sad to see how much this particular boy was hurting and how his mother was at her wits end as to how to deal with it. Whilst a number of fathers are not great role models for their offspring and would have no positive influence on the kids, there is a whole lot more that would. A boy needs the authoritarian figure of a male. Mothers can do this to a point but they cannot replace or take the place of a father. What irritates the hell out of me most is homes where the father is not allowed to have input, is not given the chance to interact with his children or chooses to not become involved. It can be a hellish job bringing up children alone and quite often when things go awry, the finger of blame gets pointed in the mothers direction. A responsible father can show the children how to treat women, how to become resourceful, a mother can do all these as a balanced view but it is still from a female perspective. Most mothers do their utmost to rear their children where they are seen as valued members of society. Is is noted by US expert Dr Wade Horn that many of the prisoners inside jails come from single parent families, he also stated:

Children from such homes tended to under-perform in education, and many of them lived in poverty, and were themselves likely to end up in poverty.

Children need both their mother and their father if they were to grow up a balanced healthy adult. While children from a single parent family can grow up healthy and balanced, the probability of this happening in a typical two parent family was much higher.

I agree. Fathers and just how important they are is very much under-rated. This post is not from an academic point of view , I have no uni degree but one does not need a degree to know what is important and what DOES matter in the life of a child. Books and degrees are great in theory but they are no match for the insight and knowledge you gain as a real life parent.

Where are the Fathers?

With more cases of child abuse and neglect coming to light in Australia,mothers being brought before courts, the question arises, "Where are the fathers?". There is no plausible reason for any child to live in absolute filth and be subjected to neglect as seen recently.
Ideally parenting of a child should be met by both mother and father. Realistically this isn't an ideal world with thousands of children living in broken homes and the responsibility of parenting is borne by one, usually the mother. It should be noted that not all single mothers/fathers abuse or neglect their offspring . Still, in the cases that have been broadcast , there seems to be hardly any if at all, mention of the fathers. You will find a number of mothers/fathers use their own issues and apply it to the kids as a reason for not allowing access in their lives. Issues between a mother and father need to be kept between them, kids don't need to be witness or subjected to their parents hostilities. Absentee fathers; and I use fathers here as I stated before with the cases we are now hearing about are not in the picture, need to step up to the plate and take an active role in their kids lives and accept responsibility. Children don't ask to be born and they deserve the best from both parents, whether they co-exist or not, it is achievable.

Does Every Child Need a Father?

This would have to be one of the saddest Bills to pass through. Children do not ask to be born and as is asked in the following article, "Does every child need a father?". The answer is yes. Every child has a right to have a father. I always thought any fertility treatment was to be paid by the ones seeking treatment. Does this Bill mean that the British taxpayer will be footing the costs for Lesbian couples to have children? If you look at the following article, in the comments some valid points are made.

1: Who will be sought after to pay child support should the couple separate?

2: A bad father is far worse than no father.

3: Does the legislation give the sperm donor an option to decide against same-sex parenting?

4: THIS ONE TAKES THE CAKE: 178. Posted by Dorothy P on May 21, 2008 08:25 AM

Better to have two loving female parents than the all too frequent scenario of having a father who dominates the household with aggression, bullying, over-competitiveness and the hideous risks of paedophilia and domestic violence.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/yourview/1997002/

The change reflects the fact that in a heterosexual couple when the woman is inseminated with donor sperm the man is treated as the father even though he has no biological link to the resulting child. Male gay couples who have children via surrogate mothers or by adoption are not covered by the new legislation.

The Bill says that where there is reference to the father of a child such as on birth certificates this is to be read as reference to the female parent who did not give birth.

It will also say for the first time that babies born through fertility treatment do not need to have a father figure and parents will be banned from choosing the sex of their child.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1996358/Two-mother

In this world a persons sexual orientation should not be used in a discriminatory way against them. Do Lesbian couples have the rights to consciously bring a child into the world through tax payer funded fertility treatments ?